M,
I have considered you as part of my family for the last 14 years. We have all loved you and i have considered you a son. I have never know a father who loves their child as much as you loved ****y. And in return i can honestly say that none of my grandchildren loved their dads as much as ****y loved you. ****y and J are lovely children. You have been brilliant with J and i thank you for the 14 years stability you gave him.
I understand that you know longer want to be with *. Whilst i find this really sad and i know * would like to reconcile but i accept your choice to move on. J and ****y have been hugely effected by the events over the last year. ****y and J are different children who have gone from happy children to children who express extreme sadness in their eyes! I love them so much it breaks my heart! I myself was personally devastated by the Cornwall incident but as a family we wish you and your girlfriend lots of happiness in the future. We don’t hate you M and if you are as happy as * says then that’s brilliant.
I have visited the solicitors with * and we would very much like to come to an agreement that is fair on you. ****y and J need to be housed. *s solicitor made it very clear that * will keep the house as you have insufficient funds in the house to provide a home for ****y and J should the house be sold.. Whilst i understand you wish to move on with you life (as i am sure * would if she didn’t have two dependent children) the divorce needs to be fair. I would at this point like to say that i encourage you to seek legal advice.
* has spoken to the mortgage company and they have agreed to interest only repayments. * would initially like this to be for a year. * will seek full-time employment and look to have ****y settled into high school. * would then look to be taking over the full repayments whilst you remain on the mortgage. ****y and J need a home. I understand from conversations with * and her solicitor that you are looking to pay * the minimum that you have too. Whilst initially that was disappointing news i realized that i have raised a daughter who will work every hour god sends to ensure the children are ok. * will not sell the house. That will not happen.
I am asking you at this point to start divorce proceedings and to agree to the mortgage being interest only. You need to seek legal advice. * wants to ensure the children are kept in their home and it currently appears you are not supporting this. * does not have £15,000 to buy you out and after fee’s there will not be that kind of equity should the house be sold. * has been advised that she will be able to keep the house as ****y and J need somewhere to live. I am encouraging * at this point to come to an agreement out of court. However, (and this is where you need to seek legal advice) we will proceed to court at a cost of approximately £4000 to ensure that a judge agrees to * paying interest only on the house until ****y is 18/21. We would be looking to claim these costs back from you should be proceed with adultery.
****y needs a home M and so does J.
I will give you 7 days to reply to this letter on the advice of * solicitor. All we are looking for is a home for he children and by you denying * the attempt to pay interest only the courts (and myself) will take the view that you are making your children intentionally homeless.
I will not be paying the mortgage, buying you out or taking over the mortgage as you previously suggested.
I wish you all the best for the future M but i will not allow ****y and J to be homeless and i’m sure once you take a step back you will feel the same. You are not tied to * by keeping the house, you are simply ensuring ****y has a place to live.
I want my husband back 